Coming HOme to your inner voice
WhY are we disconnected from ourselves
Lately, I’ve noticed more and more clients struggling with a deep disconnection from themselves. They’ve forgotten how to trust their own inner wisdom, or maybe never learned how in the first place. If I’m honest, I have also struggled with this. These past few years have been a journey back to myself and my own inner knowing.
So why is this happening?
I’m not a researcher, but I can’t ignore the impact of the digital age. The rise of social media and constant exposure to outside voices (from “influencers” or “experts”) has shifted how we navigate our lives. We’re bombarded with messaging about how to parent, what to eat, how our homes should look, and what kind of people we should be. It’s no wonder so many of us look outside ourselves for direction, we’ve been conditioned to.
In addition, many of us have spent years caregiving, raising children or managing the emotional landscapes of others. This disconnection runs even deeper. When your focus has been on meeting everyone else’s needs, your own voice can get quieter…until it’s barely audible. The very question of “What do you want?” can stir up panic. Maybe you honestly don’t know. Maybe if feels dangerous to ask because putting yourself first feels selfish or unfamiliar. It might even feel like giving up control.
HOw Do we build trust within ourselves
So what do we do? We start small. Try asking yourself “What do I want to eat?” Do you have a craving? Can you tell what your body is asking for? This might seem like a trivial place to begin, but its’ often an accessible entry point to reconnecting with your intuition.
Of course, food can be tricky. We carry so many unconscious food rules (diet culture runs deep). Let’s take ice cream for an example:
Sometimes, I want ice cream (ok, let’s be honest I want ice cream a lot). That’s an inner signal. I also know (thanks to outer knowledge) that eating ice cream every day might not support my health. I also know how my body feels when I do eat it: sometimes it give me joy, sometimes it gives me a bellyache. That’s another layer of wisdom, my own wisdom.
Even the thought “I shouldn’t” is worth exploring. Is that your true voice, or something you picked up from diet culture, media, or someone else’s opinion? When we slow down and notice, we can start to separate inner guidance from outside influence. Then we can begin to trust ourselves again. Maybe not all at once, but moment by moment.
This doesn’t just apply to food. It can show up in so many areas of our life:
Feeling bored? Ask yourself what would feel most supportive?
Tired? Do you need rest? Stillness? Movement?
Overwhelmed? What’s one small thing you could do to feel more grounded?
These little moments of self-attunement build a bridge back to your inner voice. Over time, that connection becomes strong enough to help you navigate the big things like career decisions, relationship choices, and life changes. When we learn to listen, we learn to trust. When we trust ourselves, we find our way back home.
How can we help
At Align Therapy and Coaching, Meghan, Angel, and I are deeply committed to helping clients rebuild trust in their inner voice. We understand how easy it is to lose that connection in a world full of outside expectations, stress, and past experiences that have taught you to doubt yourself. Through a compassionate, collaborative approach, we gently guide cients back to their own knowing, whether that is through EMDR, mindfulness practices, somatic awareness, or simply creating space to ask “What do I really need?”. Together, we help you sort through the noise so you can begin to recognize, trust, and act from the wisdom that’s always been within you.
If you’d like to learn more or schedule an appointment, please reach out. We’d be honored to walk with you on your healing path.
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